Because sometimes you can say something is “bad” and sometimes you can say something is “awful” and sometimes you can say it’s “horrendous” and sometimes you can say it’s “ghastly”, and sometimes you say “dreadful” or “deplorable” or “heinous” or “abhorrent” or “dire” or “atrocious”.
But sometimes none of those things really expresses what you feel except “fucked up”.
Sometimes when someone hurts you, saying they’re a “jerk” doesn’t cover it. They’re an “asshole”, a “jackass”, a “bastard”, a “dick”. “Jerk” isn’t enough for the guy who cheated on you, or the guy who broke your heart.
Everyone has the right to use the English language as they choose. I don’t know when I started swearing—probably in high school sometime?? And my parents don’t swear—I think I actually learned a lot of my most colorful language from books.
But my choice is to use the english language in its most passionate form. I’m a writer. I love finding the perfect way to express something. The exact words that express rage or elation.
The taboo associated with swearing is… alluring.
It doesn’t make me less intelligent that I swear. Often, I think it makes you more intelligent if you know exactly how to use all parts of a language—you can maximize the power of what you say.
Because sometimes I can say “goodbye”, and sometimes I can say “get out” and sometimes i can say “don’t call” and sometimes I can say “screw you” or “I’m gone” or “don’t let the door hit you on the way out” or “au revoir” or “ciao” or “piss off” or “bon voyage”… but sometimes the right thing to say goodbye to someone is “fuck you”.
Simply put: I like the power in words.
Keeping up with the material is definitely the hardest part of medical school so far. I wish I had some good advice, but I am still going through it now, so it is hard to say what the best methods are. So far, I would say attending class, whether it’s required or not, is very helpful. I think it’s also a good idea to study broad concepts first, and then start adding in the details, rather than trying to tackle all the little things right away.
As for your other question, I don’t know if there really is a good answer. So much of that is going to depend on you as a person, and what the context is. I’m going to go out on a limb and say the more exposure you have to things like blood and guts, the more used to it you will be. Maybe you could try shadowing a surgeon to see some of that stuff up close and personal?
I’ve had the chance to talk to different medical student from different schools, both MD and DO, public and private schools, and all other parts of the spectrum.
These are based off things I was told! I haven’t started med school yet, so I can’t actually testify. But I…
It is so important to have a relaxed attiture towards studying.
Many people (Me From The Past included) just tense up when it comes to studying - I have to do it, I have to get good grades, I need to do this now, I have no choice, everyone expects this from me, if I fail now, I won’t have a good life later, I need to do this to be succesful, …
but no. Stop yourself there. That’s not how we do. Those are all good and valid reasons for studying, but they are additional. They won’t motivate you. They scare you. They force you to study by instilling the fear of failure in you. And that’s not a good long-time strategy. At all.
Do you really want to operate on fear?
No. What you need is
(That the day would ever come to use this)
You shouldn’t study because of obligation, you should study because of curiosity. Think about it: You’re a mass of flesh and blood and bone, somehow navigating through a space of ups and downs and lefts and rights and through a time of before and now and then. How freaking confusing.
Yet we tell each other stories and build shelters and produce sounds that convey meaning and significance and invent pasta and sometimes slaughter each other and sometimes hug each other for hours and there are storms and there are table-top lamps that look like worms and we investigate and we find magnets and electricity and that there are forces we cannot see in day to day life and there are other planets out there, huge and tiny and we only see them as little lights on the sky and we once thought they were gods and that they would govern our fates, because we know we will die but we can heal sickness and sadness and we joke and make each other laugh and one day it’s over and then?
Do you not want to know more? I know I do. And this passion, this love, will keep you going. In a laid-back, chill, stylish and day to day way. Every day you learn a little more about our reality. Isn’t that just …cool?
chem lab (non-research). I want to try to get research experience but I am worried because I’m already a third year. I also value my free time a lot, and I fear if I do research or medicine, I won’t have any, which is why I was thinking less time-intensive options, but I really don’t know. Thanks!
I think all of those worries are legitimate and I understand your concerns. But consider that there likely isn’t going to be a job out there that will meet all of your specifications.
If you’re worried about having free time (i.e., doing less work) then you probably won’t make as much. If you don’t want to be in school that long you won’t make as much. The level of your degree and the amount of work you perform is directly proportional to your pay. For most cases, at least. But let’s not rely on luck. I don’t want to sound rude, that’s just how it is. So if you can’t deal with those things, that greatly reduces your job options. And remember, just having job options you want picked out isn’t enough. You will be competing for those few positions you’re comfortable applying for. And that applies to any job.
I’m not sure if you’re asking me what you should do or not. I don’t think I should be the one to guide you, rather, your advisor or professors should. But an option I don’t think you mentioned was working in industry. I’m not sure if you’ve ever considered engineering, but that’s a good field to go into, as well.
As for right now, I think you should try to get into research if you plan on being a scientist. But I don’t think you should worry about getting the experience right here right now. The anxiety is not worth it. You have time during and after your degree to work on that. The sooner the better, but it’s not a competition to see who can get the most research hours in before graduation.